Mean people…
Getting back on my soapbox for a minute!
I find it strange that people who do not watch adult entertainment or have issues with it, find the time to write to those who are in our industry. I don’t appreciate when I get fucked up comments about what I do. If someone wants to know who I am working for and what I am doing, I am gonna say it…Don’t like it, then don’t follow me on Twitter or my site or waste your time. All your doing is making me famous, so thank you for your help!
I had a ton of normal jobs before porn and I am working on a project where I will be able to share more, however I cannot go into details: For now I am just gonna share this,
I was 18 when I worked with disabled adults. It was so cool, and very sad at the same time. Here I am perfectly able to walk, eat and talk. Yet there was a 35 year old man who I cared for, who cannot hold a spoon on his own. He could not speak or run. He never had what we would consider a ‘normal’ life. It was heartbreaking. So each day that I came in, we would look at tons of cooking magazines and rip out all the tasty looking ideas and sort them. He loved to look at pictures and sort them by what he felt would be most difficult to make. It was the sweetest thing. The easy thing, most common for him: mashed potatos, applesauces or jello molds, pudding or jams and jellies. He knew those must have been easy to obtain and make because he ate those almost daily.
This man who never ran or drove a car, never went on a roller coaster or ever finished a book with more than 20 words some how is now the smartest man in my eyes. He understood that if we are used to having certain things, how do we ever know what we are missing?
Why complain to me or talk trash on your computer? You have power, running water and shelter, and the ability to surf the internet to find me only to make rude comments???
You have the brains to get yourself someplace to talk shit to someone you know nothing about: pure ignorance.
Think before you speak. xoxo
July 14th, 2010 at 12:51 pm
fuck those assholes! they prolly just old ass muthafukas that have nasty wives that arent sexy and busty like u :D
July 16th, 2010 at 2:42 am
Well said. I currently work with disabled people and have done so for 9 years. Although I am constantly surrounded by people less fortunate than myself, I often forget how good I have it – thanks for the reminder. Don’t let the bastards get you down!!
July 16th, 2010 at 3:15 am
Hi Babe,
I’m totally with you ! Don’t hesitate to tell all those stupid people what they are from your point of view. It’s really crazy looking onto such sites and then complaining about what you do or did.
Love you the way you are xoxoxoxo
July 17th, 2010 at 4:47 am
I see what you’re referring to, I’ve been around people like the disabled adult whose life you tried to better, and I’ve been in his position to a certain extent. Though I haven’t been in or anywhere near his position, I’ve been treated far different from the “average” person and I’ve been down for it. Sometimes in life you have to learn things that cannot be taught. Things like understanding, selflessness, and appreciation can only be self-taught. Though people might dislike the concept of porn and look down upon it, you should do things that make you personally happy.
More importantly, most people are blind to certain methodologies and completely shut out other people’s ways of doing things. That shouldn’t be anybody else’s business unless it comes into contact with them personally. As long as it isn’t unlawful (and what you’re doing isn’t even borderline unlawful) or affecting anybody else directly, there is nothing wrong with how you want to live your life and people should learn to respect that.
People aren’t required to like what you do or be a fan of what you do, but it’s just common courtesy to respect what you do and move on if they don’t like what you do. I, too do things that many people would look down upon and scowl at. I am far different from most people around me. I don’t behave the same way, I don’t have the same hobbies, and I honestly believe I am a better person for pushing upriver through the criticism of my feelings instead of letting them take over me. I’m not perfect, nor is anybody else, and it shouldn’t be fair for people to put down people and look at someone negatively for the way someone wants to live his/her life, though unfortunately it all day, every day. Your life is *your* life, not anyone else’s, just as my life is *my* life and no one else’s. As long as it isn’t unlawful or directly impacts anybody else, they have no reason to complain and you shouldn’t take any of their BS seriously. They can complain and obsess about anything all they want, but I doubt a fraction of them have seen the flip-side of the coin, and I doubt a fraction of them even bother to.
I personally very much enjoy your work and I think it’s great how you can express yourself the way you do and how you can do so well. Some people are singers, some people are musicians, some people are painters, and some are sculptors. All of those types of people express themselves similarly to the way you do with emotion and feeling. Unfortunately, none of that is looked upon negatively like pornography, which can make it difficult for pornographers and adult film stars to do what makes them happy. You made a significant impact on at least one other person’s life, and you should be very proud of that. Who knows if that man you dedicated your time, energy, and patience to could’ve havd a far worse life?
My dream is to make a difference in someone else’s life since I never really had the opportunity as much as I wanted it and could have benefited from it. I’ve read the stories and seen in person how much one person can change someone else’s life. You did that and the vast majority of people would look away from it as if they were better than that concept. Be proud of yourself and don’t fall under the pressure. The world is very cruel in many ways, and it can make many people’s lives miserable. What makes a great person different from the overwhelming majority of the world is being able to push through the negativity, be successful, and be happy, all at the same time. Don’t care about anyone else’s negative opinion. If what you do makes you happy then do it, let no one else take that away from you. I do hope everything works out for you.
I don’t know if you will actually read this, but I do mean everything and I’m not saying all this just to suck up as many would. I have no reason to suck up and it’s not like there’s a decent chance I’ll actually meet you. I am only saying this because I read the post and I do feel like i can relate in a sense. I might not understand first-hand what you’ve gone through and go through today, but I can completely understand your feelings and I respect them. Live your life they way you want, I’m rooting for your succcess and happiness!
July 18th, 2010 at 5:47 pm
Love your work and following what you do. Keep up the good work Dylan, you seem like a cool person off the set too. And don’t let haters get you down, there’s a ton of fans out there :)
Hugs all the way from Denmark